It's confession time. I didn't write a blog for the month of May (gasp), but it was for a very good reason...we welcomed boy/girl twins into our family on May 25th! With the new additions in our house, I could not think of a better subject to blog about than BALANCE.
All you have to do is google "balance in life" and 389 MILLION results will pop up in 0.46 seconds. There are literally millions of resources out there aimed at helping you find this balance! This shows us how incredibly important this is...and also how much we are lacking balance in our lives.
The best definition that suits our purpose is: "A state in which different things occur in equal or proper amounts or have an equal or proper amount of importance."
* borrowed from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary
What I gain from this is that fair does not mean equal. There is a very good chance that we will spend more time at work/school on a Monday than we will with our families or friends, however this unequal time does not make work/school more important. Work/school will get the "proper amount" of time and family/friends would get the "proper amount" of importance. It is not equal, but it is fair.
In looking through the many websites from my google search, (I made it through a couple of pages!) I came up with the following list of things that we balance.
In no particular order:
the list goes on and on...
The biggest thing that helps me in juggling all of these things is making a plan. Essentially, being organized. The first step in this is maintaining a good calendar. I first enter everything that I am required to do into the calendar: work/school/gigs/meetings...all of the typical stuff that you would put on a calendar.
When I added the next step to my life, I finally found "balance" and my happiness greatly increased, as did my productivity, and my quality of life just seemed to be better.
This life-changing step was scheduling my FREE TIME. Seriously. I put a big "X" through the times that I have open and I schedule them for my family, for me, and for a purpose. If I am going to do "nothing"...then I actually do nothing. But, for the most part, I schedule in fun adventures, special dinners, visits with family, etc.
When time is put aside, it gains meaning. It feels like I have so much more time than I actually do and I enjoy my time more than I ever have before.
Advice on Balance collected from over the years:
Put out the hottest fire first.
Do sweat the small stuff...there is a good chance that this will decrease the amount of "big stuff".
Be in the moment and stay in the moment.
Don't worry about the unknown.
Git 'er done! Complaining about what needs to be done is a waste of time. It could already be done, but all of that time was spent dreading it!
Make the best out of each and every moment.
Now there are 389,000,001 search results for "balance in life".